Trying To Become The Identity That We Already Are

There is something I have been observing for years that I believe sits quietly beneath much of the struggle humanity experiences, especially within spiritual spaces.

I have noticed that many people spend enormous amounts of time striving to become what, in many ways, they already are.

What fascinates me is how deeply this pattern has shaped the way people engage both God and life itself. Entire belief systems have been built around the idea that humanity is constantly moving toward something it does not yet possess. People are taught to spend their lives pursuing righteousness, seeking more of God, trying to become more anointed, hoping to become more worthy, praying for access to blessings they believe remain outside of themselves and striving endlessly toward spiritual realities they assume are still distant.

Yet the deeper question I continue to ask is this: what if much of this striving was never necessary to begin with? What if the majority of human struggle is not rooted in a lack of access, but in a fundamental misunderstanding of identity?

I have come to believe that the way we perceive ourselves determines almost everything about how we engage life. If a person believes they are distant from God, their life naturally becomes a pursuit of closeness. If a person believes they are broken, they begin organizing their life around the pursuit of being fixed. If a person believes they are lacking, they spend their life chasing what they assume they do not possess.

The tragedy is that people often spend decades pursuing realities that were never absent in the first place. This is why I believe revelation matters so deeply.

What makes this even more fascinating is that much of this striving does not happen naturally. It is learned. Humanity has inherited systems of thinking that quietly teach people from an early age that they are lacking something essential. We are taught that peace must be earned, that connection with God remains distant, that worthiness is conditional and that life itself is a constant pursuit toward becoming enough. Over time these narratives become so deeply embedded that people rarely stop to question whether the very foundation they are building their lives upon was ever true to begin with.

For many people, transformation has been framed as becoming something different. But I no longer believe transformation begins there. I believe true transformation is engaged when a person begins seeing clearly what has always been true beneath the layers of inherited narratives, fear, conditioning and false beliefs they have accumulated over time.

Perhaps the problem has never been that humanity lacked something essential. Perhaps humanity simply forgot who and what it truly is.

This changes everything.

Because if life is approached from the assumption that something important is missing, then striving becomes the natural posture. People begin exhausting themselves trying to obtain what they believe exists somewhere outside of them. Entire spiritual journeys become built around effort, performance and the constant pursuit of becoming.

But what happens when a person begins to realize that life was never about becoming?

What happens when a person begins to understand that identity precedes experience?

What happens when someone discovers that so much of what they have been pursuing has already been freely given, already fully present and already woven into the very reality of who they are?

Suddenly the entire way a person engages life begins to shift. No longer does life become a desperate attempt to earn worth, secure approval or achieve spiritual advancement. Instead, life becomes the beautiful process of learning how to engage with what has always been present.

Revealed Identity

Perhaps awakening is not about becoming something new. Perhaps awakening is simply remembering. And maybe one of the greatest tragedies of human existence is that so many people spend their entire lives trying to become what, in reality, they already are.

So if you find yourself tired from striving, exhausted from trying to earn what you believe has been withheld from you, I want to offer you this encouragement. Maybe you can pause for a moment and consider that you are not as far away as you have been taught to believe. Maybe the peace, connection, love, wholeness and divine intimacy you have been searching for are not distant destinations waiting somewhere ahead of you. Maybe they have been present all along.

What if the invitation before you is not to work harder, become better or prove yourself worthy enough to receive something greater? What if the invitation is simply to awaken to what has already been given? To remember who you are beneath the fear, beneath the conditioning, beneath every story that taught you that you were separate, lacking or incomplete.

There is freedom in that realization. And perhaps today, instead of continuing the exhausting pursuit of becoming, you can allow yourself to rest in the possibility that you were never missing what mattered most.

Maybe this journey is not about reaching for something outside of yourself.

Maybe it is finally time to come home to what has always been within you.

Perhaps one of the greatest misunderstandings humanity has inherited is the belief that life is fundamentally built around separation. Separation from God. Separation from peace. Separation from wholeness. Separation from the fullness of life itself. But what if the invitation before us has never been about bridging a distance between ourselves and something greater? What if life begins to change the moment we awaken to the reality that we were never as disconnected as we were taught to believe, and that what we have spent our lives searching for has always been present within the very fabric of who we already are.

About the Author

Serge Da Rosa is co-founder of Urban Eden Community, a ministry dedicated to helping people discover their God-given identity and walk in the freedom of the new creation. Alongside his wife, Kristy, Serge facilitates weekly gatherings in Tulsa, Oklahoma that center around authentic connection, growth, and kingdom expression outside the walls of traditional religious systems.

Serge’s passion is to see people awakened to their union with God. Through weekly community gatherings, work in addiction recovery, community events, writing, teaching, and the Kings And Priests Podcast, he speaks into themes of identity, grace, purpose, kingdom and governance with clarity, depth, and hope.

Whether through a conversation, a gathering, or a written word, Serge’s message remains the same: You are in perfect union with God, empowered with God's Kingdom. 

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